Thursday, 15 December 2011

Do's and Don'ts of Attracting a Woman

Want to be a Sexy Item to A Woman? Here are Some Tips:
Being attractive to women is actually a lot simpler than most men might think. It involves being yourself, being kind, genuine and well groomed (amongst many other things). Oh, and contrary to what Hollywood might have you believe, the popular misconception amongst men that women like bad-boy jerks with bulging muscles is simply NOT the case.
1. Good Manners are Important
Women appreciate a man with good manners; a gentleman who holds the door open for her or keeps her hand warm on a cold day are a couple of simple actions that she will really appreciate. These might seem like small gestures and old-fashioned but let's a woman feel that she is being cared for and will enable her to form a positive impression of you as someone who is conscientious of her, especially if your relationship is just starting out.
Don'ts: Rudeness is a big TURN OFF. Signs of rudeness would include:
- Eating with your mouth open.
- Smoking and blowing the smoke close to her face.
- When in a coffee shop going to buy a drink and not offering her one.
- Spitting.
2. Image is Important
The way that you dress says a lot about you and is sending her a real strong message all the time. Women like to spend a lot of time on their appearance and will appreciate a man who also takes reasonable time on theirs. No, Giorgio Armani or Gianfranco Ferre items are not necessary, the only thing that matters is that your clothes are clean and tidy (this includes your shoes). A woman will feel most attracted to a guy who takes pride in his appearance. There is something which is extremely attractive about a clean-cut, well dressed man. You don't have to be the best looking guy in the world but trust me, if you choose your clothes well you will reap the rewards. A nice look would include one with pants other than jeans. Jeans are so prevalent and casual, that they won't bring out the best in you and make her notice you as much.
Don'ts: Strong colognes and BO.
Smelling good is important but do not overdose on strong colognes whose fumes might knock her out. The same thing applies to body odor. I once sat with a guy who dressed fine except that he was not mindful of his bodily odors which permeated the whole workspace. I would have vomited if not for my strong stomach that withstood it. Suffice it to say that he was single and did not have any female friends.
3. A Sense of Humor
Having a sense of humor combined with your well-groomed image makes for a very attractive charismatic combination. If you can entertain her with your jokes and make her laugh and you also look good, well... a lot of women will inevitably find you quite attractive.
4. Being Genuine - The REAL You
Women are very intuitive creatures. VERY intuitive, and will detect phoniness right away so make sure that you don't pretend to be something that you are not. Eventually this fake fa├žade will be discovered and she will be disappointed that you resorted to it in the first place. Above all, whether most men are aware of it or not, it is a sign of insecurity and weakness and this is a big turn off. Women do not like weak men. Being straightforward, honest and sincere with who you are will really impress.
5. Being Secure and Confident
Women admire men who are not afraid to go out and get what they want or men who speak up when they see that something is not right. Behavior perceived as cowardly is an enormous turn off and will make her lose respect for you.
6. Altruism and Kindness
Women notice acts of kindness and generosity which touch them in a profound way. Since they tend to talk amongst themselves, all their girlfriends will eventually come to find out what a selfless and giving person you are. Which girl wouldn't want to be with a great, giving guy like that?
7. Knowing how to carry a conversation
In order to establish a connection with a woman and really relate with her, it is important that you can at least have a conversation with her. If you don't know anything at all about the subject that she is talking about, you can still have a conversation about it. All you need to do is ask her pertinent questions about the topic. If she is talking about her sister's son that you have never met, and how he became ill the other day then ask her if he is OK or what was wrong with him, or hold old he is, or if he get's sick often (the list of questions that you can ask her is endless). This will allow for the conversation to continue smoothly while showing interest in what she is saying (your engagement is quite important).
These tips will serve to change your experience with women for the better, and help to transform you into a sexy item that a woman will love to meet and keep around.
Rafaela Vasquez is a regular contributor to How to Be Attractive to where she writes on various topics on relationships. Visit today at


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